tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post5823603314404007328..comments2024-03-20T05:47:29.650-07:00Comments on White Sugar, Brown Sugar: Adoption Mini-RantsWhite Sugar Brown Sugar by Rachel Garlinghousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17573930066994411269noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-13003403023125465122012-11-23T17:37:20.741-08:002012-11-23T17:37:20.741-08:00I feel there is nothing wrong if you want a child ...I feel there is nothing wrong if you want a child of your same race and I see no problem with adoption agencies that ask you to give criteria.<br /><br />As the reader above commented not every one can care for a child with medical disabilities or want to have to tell every stranger they meet that there child is adopted because they are of a different race.<br /><br />Some people can have the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-58587423430525735982012-11-09T12:39:07.604-08:002012-11-09T12:39:07.604-08:00I agree. Even with pregnancy/bio children, there a...I agree. Even with pregnancy/bio children, there are annoying sayings/comments. I've heard "my, your hands are full" when I'm out with my 3 kids, "wow, you're so big, when are you due" along with many personal questions that are not really for public knowledge. I've also asked questions that are deemed "irritating" in the adoption community. AND my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-58424488987769213792012-11-08T18:54:10.371-08:002012-11-08T18:54:10.371-08:00THANK-YOU for posting the "God made this chil...THANK-YOU for posting the "God made this child for you" comment. I struggle greatly with this issue as the mama to an (almost!) adopted 3 year old foster son and have blogged about a similar comment myself: http://lookintothewindows.blogspot.com/2012/10/some-more-thoughts-on-fostering-to-adopt.html<br /><br />It was a breath of fresh air to hear an adoptive mom disagree with that Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14941895881749628628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-92008325856984947772012-11-08T18:47:24.621-08:002012-11-08T18:47:24.621-08:00People say things trying to be optimistic and happ...People say things trying to be optimistic and happy. Many don't want to touch on the real emotions, which is why they say things like "God made your child for you." You have to accept it and move on, because rhymes and sayings aren't what adoption is all about, and every adoptive parent is aware of that.<br /><br />With that being said, I feel that God did intend for me to Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04907232199641499380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-15783532128690542402012-11-08T16:10:15.605-08:002012-11-08T16:10:15.605-08:00How is this helpful? So what, let's all compla...How is this helpful? So what, let's all complain about the things that irritate us? From a reader's perspective, you come across as very whiny. Fortunately, it's your blog and you're free to write about whatever you feel like. Just a thought, but "rants" are all too common around here. You are far too good a writer and have too many good things to share. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-6088430171481549532012-11-08T13:26:17.549-08:002012-11-08T13:26:17.549-08:00It dislike hearing people talk about adoption in a...It dislike hearing people talk about adoption in a non-permanent way. Like openness will make a birthmom want the baby back. Like an adoptive family should be in a constant state of panic that their family would be disrupted. Even if she does want the baby back, in the large majority of domestic adoption cases that legally can't happen, especially post finalization. <br /><br />I'm a DallasJennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00558849572108887699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-5891657436322825712012-11-08T12:50:27.094-08:002012-11-08T12:50:27.094-08:00They top of my current pet peeve is "they are...They top of my current pet peeve is "they are so lucky." Nope, losing everything you love isn't lucky. I'm working on a blog post about this topic, but haven't posted because I'm afraid I'll offend too many people. Need to tone it down in the rewrite process.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com