tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post848616784055107844..comments2024-03-20T05:47:29.650-07:00Comments on White Sugar, Brown Sugar: Odd Conversation...White Sugar Brown Sugar by Rachel Garlinghousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17573930066994411269noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-30452770980211814862010-01-08T05:42:24.469-08:002010-01-08T05:42:24.469-08:00Now that I've reread my comment, I'm reali...Now that I've reread my comment, I'm realizing the last paragraph came across wrong. I shouldn't have put those two sentences in the same paragraph - they're not related. I don't mean he is interested in you. Just purely fascinated.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11632257997073091925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-21289864778087322192010-01-08T05:40:28.181-08:002010-01-08T05:40:28.181-08:00I've been thinking a lot about your experience...I've been thinking a lot about your experience since I read your post a week ago. This man's responses and questions tell a lot about his culture and understanding of the family.<br /><br />Disbelief! "I'm not used to this." We are in a time when cross cultural adoption is becoming more and more common. We have friends with diverse ethnic backgrounds. That was not true Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11632257997073091925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-19228006027005836742009-12-31T14:27:57.965-08:002009-12-31T14:27:57.965-08:00Maybe you were meant to communicate a new understa...Maybe you were meant to communicate a new understanding to that man...and every other person you meet when you're out and about with Baby. That's a powerful thing.Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05387876958591464124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-34602479241108523982009-12-31T13:56:11.797-08:002009-12-31T13:56:11.797-08:00I think you handled it well -- now imagine in that...I think you handled it well -- now imagine in that man's lifetime what he has experienced - Civil rights movement, sit ins and probably himself all sorts of horrors. Now today, he has a black president and families with black children (willingly). Maybe you are the first person he has "known" that he can ask about, maybe he was confused, maybe he thought you were a foster parent (Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04552918781072146852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-21908758014665312012009-12-30T07:35:27.744-08:002009-12-30T07:35:27.744-08:00Actually, I think he was kinda impressed with you ...Actually, I think he was kinda impressed with you and you challenged his beliefs about what races caucasian couples are open to/want to adopt. He was brave in admitting that he was older and "not used to this". I think you handled everything just fine and gave great answers. I don't think he was implying that he didn't approve (?) just that he was surprised and didn't HollyMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316447804006046943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-52756693052520960972009-12-30T05:46:49.335-08:002009-12-30T05:46:49.335-08:00I think you did a great job answering his question...I think you did a great job answering his questions without being defensive. It was odd that he kept asking other people about you though. I don't think it's that odd that he wanted to talk to you about it. I think that many people do not understand transracial families and to be able to not only tell them about the importance of adoption but to witness to them about what God has done Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-20862538406128308102009-12-29T12:32:35.056-08:002009-12-29T12:32:35.056-08:00Very odd but I think you handled it very well. I&...Very odd but I think you handled it very well. I'm not sure I would have done so well. It's so weird that he kept asking about her and where she was, like it was his business anyway!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17539678705059004065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-38228673189061203342009-12-28T19:15:37.326-08:002009-12-28T19:15:37.326-08:00The most interesting part is that he asked SO MANY...The most interesting part is that he asked SO MANY times if she was your daughter. Waiting to get another answer? Strange.Shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15970900624010115206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1937194102446307830.post-88500079630896280462009-12-28T14:40:54.250-08:002009-12-28T14:40:54.250-08:00How odd! I don't know what to make of it. ???...How odd! I don't know what to make of it. ??? Perhaps you were the first white woman he has ever seen with a black child and he was just trying to process it?? It is definitely odd!glenna marshallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18348224654818247656noreply@blogger.com