I recently wrote about the art/power of saying no.
But there's also a certain amount of grace necessary to accept no from someone.
Going from two kids to three has been quite challenging for us. I feel like I have 500 children, not three. (Ok, yes, I'm exaggerating...but it is very overwhelming!)
I have friends with four, five, six, seven, eight kids...and now having three, I'm finally getting it.
I get why they cancel playdates more often than they attend.
I get why they serve lunch at 10:30 a.m. and dinner at 4:30.
I get why they run out of milk, eggs, bread, and cheese.
I get why they seem a little (or a lot) dazed all the time.
I get why bedtime is not to be compromised.
Because, I'm starting to do it too.
The other day, I tried to put contact drops in my ears instead of my eyes.
I have to cancel plans about half the time.
Sometimes we have dinner at 4:30, and sometimes it's served at 7:30.
Attempting to accomplish anything or reason with children after 5:00 p.m. is pointless.
I am always multitasking---physically and mentally.
Bedtime is NOT EVER to be compromised for my safety and sanity.
So when you have friends with multiple children, or a friend with just a few kids (but perhaps one has a special need or one is particularly needy), have the grace to say, "No problem!" when they cancel your plans...again! Be the friend who doesn't attempt to add guilt to the shame they might already feel.
We are all busy. We all have stress.
We all need grace from one another.