One thing you should know about me is that I'm a decisive person. The downside is that means at times I can be prideful and stubborn, but the upside is, as I say, I "pick and stick." I'm committed, dedicated, and passionate once I make a decision I believe is best.
Over the course of my time in the adoption community, I've had communication with blog readers, friends, and family members who are uncertain about what to do when it comes to family-building. There are those who say "I've always wanted to adopt" but were never brought to a place in life or a point in time where adoption was a REAL option or consideration for them. They had a few biological children, put their adopting fantasies on the back burner, and moved on with their lives. But what of those who aren't able to conceive a biological child or aren't certain (due to past miscarriages or stillbirths, due to personal health reasons, etc.) having a biological child is safe or healthy option?
They are in a place of purgatory. They simply cannot, cannot decide what to do. They are tortured.
I wrote something for them called "To the Friend Who Is on the Fence About Adopting a Baby," and it was published by Huffington Post Parents. In it I share this:
"Adoption isn't easy, and it is not the same experience as having a baby biologically. Despite the fact that my children and I share no biological connection, we are a real family, knit together with love and commitment to one another. I wouldn't trade our tumultuous path to parenthood for anything, because after the rainstorm awaited the most vibrant, beautiful, unique and unforgettable rainbow."
Today if you are in that place of purgatory, or you know someone who is, please share my article with them. It's really a love letter. A cheer. A reality check. It's all of these things.
And it's also a kick in the pants. There comes a time when you really do need to pee or get off the pot. Indecisiveness has a season.