A topic of much debate and opinion.
When does a mom's obsession with keeping her daughter's hair in tact become detrimental to the kid's childhood?
What I mean is, Miss E loves to play dress up. She puts three headbands on, or a conductor hat, or a tie (like her daddy wears to work). She's always messing up her hair in the name of creative play. Or if she's not messing it up, someone else is---be it an adult who casually fondles her locks or a little kid sitting next to her in dance class. And any time and energy I have spent styling Miss E's hair is lost--just like that---in a nanosecond.
I want my daughter to fit in with peers of her same race. She'll already face some discrimination for having a white mom, but a white mom who can't care for her hair? But what if it's not that I can't care for her hair, but that I choose to let her be free to be herself---even if that means she messes it up by wearing three headbands or does a few somersaults on the floor while playing with friends?
What do you think?
One little girl in Miss E's preschool is biracial (AA/CA). She has super short hair. Her mom said that the little girl hates having her hair done, even combed, so the mom keeps it very short so it's manageable. I admire this mom's decision.
A recent article on one of my favorite websites, My Brown Baby, talks about how some black women would rather protect their hair than their health. This is a topic that is very important to me. Being a diabetic, I understand how crucial exercise is to the health of all people, brown ladies included.
Talk to me, readers. What do you think?
There will be more hair posts coming this February!