Showing posts with label big family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label big family. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 8, 2019

Easy and Inexpensive Meal Planning for Big Families

When we went from three kids to four, we became a big family. And not only are we a big family, but my kids can eat...a lot

We struggled for years to figure out how and when to meal plan and grocery shop. We were blowing so much money on running to the grocery store multiple times a week to get "just a few things." It was also stressful to realize at 5 p.m. that we didn't have a dinner plan.



Sure, we could run to town and grab some drive-thru food. But it's expensive and unhealthy. Not to mention, a sandwich and fries doesn't fill my kids up. 




If you face a similar struggle, I have good news! We finally figured out how to meal plan for our big family. Easily. And conveniently. I'm excited to share our method with you.

Creating a meal schedule eliminates the "what are we going to eat?" drama, excessive trips to the store (which always blow the budget), and complaints about the meal.

Here's how you can plan meals for your big family-easily and inexpensively.


1: Write down all dietary restrictions and preferences.


Don't skip this step! It's important to have this foundational info so you don't waste time and money on meals your family won't eat.

In our family, we have one person who is gluten free, two who are dairy free, and one who has a tree nut allergy. I also have a child who is super sensitive to pineapple (of all things!). We also prefer vegan or vegetarian meals with a few exceptions. 

We are big-believers in eating lots of fruits and veggies, buying organic when possible, and making easy meals that don't cost a lot. (Yes, this IS POSSIBLE to eat frugally AND healthfully--especially since we don't buy meat).

I suggest having a family meeting and asking family members what they don't and do like. Have them be very specific. State which individual foods are preferred (this includes fruits, veggies, entrees, etc.) as well as recipes. 








Soooo... we’re working hard here to eat a mostly plant-based diet. Our exceptions: eggs and wild caught Alaskan salmon. πŸ₯šπŸ₯¬πŸ₯πŸ’πŸπŸ₯¦πŸ†πŸ πŸ₯’πŸ…πŸŒ Why?! Dairy and meat are inflammatory. Expensive (we buy organic). Bad for your heart. Dairy causes all sorts of digestive issues. Gut health matters to the entire body. Don’t get me started on estrogen. (yes, we supplement b12 and vitamin d3!) 🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏽‍♂️ Fiber is where it’s at! And all the nutrients in fresh fruits and veggies are magical! 🌟 We stick to mostly gluten free whole grains, because I’m gluten free. One for all. All for one! ☝🏾 You might be wondering, what do we eat?! Lots of veggies and fruits. Black beans galore. Some tofu/soy milk. Nuts (switching to almond butter). Quinoa. Organic brown rice. Lentils. Water, water, water. Green tea. Stevia and erythritol for sweetener. Olives (my kids LOVE olives). Hummus. Etc etc etc. πŸ—’ We are not interested in shakes, supplements, potions (lol). So don’t bother DMing me. I don’t want to be on your team or buy your stuff. πŸ’΅ This is a new adventure for us. One that’s going to require some work. Feeding six people is a challenge given all our needs, health histories, allergies, sensitivities, and preferences. πŸ’ͺ🏼πŸ’ͺ🏼πŸ’ͺ🏾πŸ’ͺ🏿πŸ’ͺ🏽πŸ’ͺ🏿 Anyone here vegetarian? vegan? Favorite accounts I should follow? I need recipes that are gluten/dairy/meat free. πŸ‘‡πŸΌπŸ‘‡πŸ½πŸ‘‡πŸΎ . . . #breastcancersurvivor #plantbased #vegetarian #vegan #recipes #bigfamilylife #dairyfree #glutenfree #whitesugarbrownsugar #type1diabetes #eczema #adviceplease #tuesdaythoughts
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2: Get organized: purge away!



Get rid of all your outdated and unused cookbooks and recipes. I had two folders full of recipes I'd torn out of magazines that we never even tried. I kept the two cookbooks hand-made by our moms (wedding gifts) and two other specialty cookbooks. 

Donate what's leftover--to the library or to a donation center. If the book is warped, stained, or very outdated, recycle it or let your kids use it for an art project. 

Take a look at what's left. This is your getting-started point. What recipes do you have now that you can put into your meal schedule? 


3: Create the master list.


I created a Word doc, using the table feature. (I told you! Easy!) Across the top: the day of the week and category. Downward, columns to type that day's recipe title.

We decided to create a four-week schedule using categories. Ours are as follows:

-Monday: Asian 
-Tuesday: chili 
-Wednesday: pasta
-Thursday: soup
-Friday: easy-peasy 
-Saturday: potato-centric
-Sunday: Mexican

Have fun with the categories! Notice we have a "potato-centric" day and an "easy-peasy" day. Also, depending on your family, it might be easier to create a two-week schedule versus a four-week schedule. Definitely start with two weeks; you can add more recipes later.

4: Add recipes to your schedule.


This is the part of the planning that takes the most time.

Start filling in your schedule based on your categories. Use the recipes you already have. Once you fill in those, start searching for new recipes. 

There are so many fabulous blogs that offer free recipes. You can also order cookbooks from your local library to browse. I recommend printing or copying the recipes you want to try. Try these new recipes once to see if your family likes it or not. If it gets the stamp of approval, you can then add it to your binder (see step #5). 

Also, some "recipes" aren't even recipes. For example, on Sunday, one of our Mexican meals is a rice bowl. It's this easy: organic brown rice, black beans, sliced black olives, sauteed peppers and onions.  The additions are salsa of choice, guacamole, and cheese. This makes for great leftovers and can be personalized. 

We also have a lot of buffets. For example, a Pad Thai buffet. I prep all the ingredients and set out the sauces. The kids go down the line, one at a time, and create their own. This way no one can claim they don't like the meal--and I can make sure there's healthy options.


5: Create your binder.


You can create a sturdy recipe binder for less than $15! (I told you: inexpensive!) You need a three ring, pocketed binder, plastic sleeves, and divider tabs.  (I put recipes-to-try in the pocket.) 

At the front of the binder (in a sleeve) is the master list. After that, the tabs keep the recipes organized. My categories are: breakfast, chilis and soups, sides, desserts, and other main dishes. You can always divide your recipes by day-of-the-week or category. Do whatever works for you! 

Don't skimp on buying the plastic sleeves! These keep the recipes protected when you're prepping and cooking.

When I prepare a grocery list on Saturdays (we grocery shop on Sunday afternoons), I pull out my binder, look at the schedule, then write down the ingredients we need from each scheduled recipe. It doesn't take long at all. Practice makes perfect.









πŸ‘‹πŸΌ it’s been awhile since I introduced myself- so here goes. I’m Rachel. I realized the other day at preschool pick up that I’m one of the old moms! 🀦🏼‍♀️ my husband and I have been married 16 years, and we have four kids from a tween to a toddler. Yes, they were adopted. Yes, they know this fact. And yes, they know they’re Black and we are white. No need to whisper. 🀣 I’m a type 1 diabetic - which is why we adopted. I also have anxiety and, a real doozy, I’m a breast cancer survivor. πŸŽ€ writing and speaking about race, adoption, health, faith, and special needs is my passion. I have a blog (link in my profile), I’ve written hundreds of articles (often for @scarymommy , been on podcasts with @jamieivey And @michellemadridbranch And @jamiegraceh , and appeared on @cnn @msnbc @cbstv @npr and more. My most recent book is #thehopefulmomsguidetoadoption and my most popular book is#poemsforthesmartspunkyandsensationalblackgirl - co authored with my oldest girls and illustrated by @coilyandcute πŸ“Ί πŸŽ™ ✏️Most days, I’m wearing my hair on a top knot with no “makeup” other than @burtsbees lip balm. I eat mostly vegan. I think The Office is hysterical. I’m a woman of faith who leans left politically. Gray is my fave color. My weakness is cheese fries. I love pumpkin but I think the PSL is nasty! ☕️ πŸ’„πŸ‘±πŸΌ‍♀️ whether you’re a new follower or a long-time friend, tell me three things about you! πŸ‘‡πŸΌπŸ‘‡πŸ½πŸ‘‡πŸΎ . . #whitesugarbrownsugar #introduction #type1diabetes #breastcancer #author #speaker #adoption #multiracialfamily #adoptivemom #mondaymotivation #mom #christian #theoffice #bigfamily
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Other tips that work well for us:

-I cook dinner during the day. As a WAHM I have that flexibility. I hate cooking when the kids are "starving" and complaining. 

-Keep fruits and veggies on hand. When my kids get hungry before a meal, they know the rule: get a piece of fruit from the fruit bowl. You can keep baby carrots in the fridge for this same reason. The fruit is enough to curb hunger enough without filling them up so much they won't eat dinner.

-Double recipes that freeze well. Soups and chilis are easy to double and freeze. Plus, if you're like me, I sometimes need a day off from cooking-and the freezer meal comes to the rescue!

-Change up your meal rotation based on season. Soups and chilis are awesome for winter and fall, while salads work great in summer. 

-Utilize the appliances you love. I'm a Crock-Pot kind of girl. I don't own an Instapot or Air Fryer. You do you!

-Make a double serving so that you have lunch the next day for the fam! Invest in good thermoses for your kids to take warmed food to school.

-Spend money on what matters most. I just bought a new, jumbo cutting board. I'm also eyeing these copper-bottom pots and pans because ours are sixteen years old. 



-Replace your dishes. I donated our dishes (also sixteen years old) because they were bulky and breakable. Instead, I bought white Corelle dishes. They're lightweight, they don't break, and they stack easily. Corelle has a variety of designs to choose from.

-Decide who-does-what and stick to it. Kids can help with grocery shopping, planning, and prepping. Though if you're like me, I sometimes proclaim that everyone (including my husband) needs to exit the kitchen NOW so I can focus. 

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Here is a fave (vegan or vegetarian) meal of ours from each of our categories to inspire you!

Monday (Asian): Hearty Vegetable Miso Soup

Tuesday (chili): Homemade Vegetarian Chili

Wednesday (pasta): Loaded Greek Chickpea Pasta Salad

Thursday (soup): Vegan Winter Lentil Stew

Friday (easy-peasy): frozen pizzas + frozen veggie + fruit 

Saturday (potato-centric): wild-caught Alaskan salmon patties (Sam's Club), Alexia frozen fries (bake 'em!), and a frozen veggie

Sunday (Mexican): Sweet Potato Quinoa and Veggie Enchilada Bake

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Tuesday, October 2, 2018

3 Easy Ways to Connect With Your Kids Individually When You Have a Big Family

If you follow me on Insta, you'll see I have an affinity for the #BigFamilyProblems. Mostly because, well, that's my life.  

In all honesty, I often use the hashtag sarcastically.  Because I LOVE having a big family.  And I love having an even number of children.  My middle two tend to "buddy up" while my oldest and the baby do the same.  Or sometimes the oldest two girls gel while the younger two play together.   It can be pretty awesome!

But we need to remember that our kids need some one-on-one time with mom and dad.  Having "buddies" (aka, siblings) is great.  It really is.  But our kids are individuals with their own needs, personalities, and dreams.   



So here's how we make sure each of our kids gets some one-on-one time with mom and/or dad:

1:  Go on a date.

Yes, just like you might date a spouse or partner, you need to date your kids!   Our oldest three are on a rotating schedule.  They get to pick which parent takes them on the date and what the activity is.  It's usually about an hour of time.  Sometimes we manage two dates in one weekend, while other times it might take us an entire month to get to all three dates.

The date doesn't need to be expensive.  With a big family, I know it's not realistic to spend a ton of money.   My kids most commonly choose getting ice cream or lunch, because they get to pick the place and take their time.   

Other ideas include a solo trip to the park (free), a trip to the store to spend their allowance, or occasionally, a movie.  (Though this often ends up being a double-date where one parent takes two kids.)  

2:  Run an errand. 

I look at this as a win-win.  Your family needs groceries, and a child can accompany mom or dad.  This gives us time to chat and usually the chosen kiddo gets a special treat of some sort, such as a quick run through the drive-thru for a hot chocolate.   If we're at a store that has toys, we linger on that aisle for a bit and listen to our child's interests.  

One of our kids loves to go through the car wash, for example.  Another child loves going on a library run.  It might even be driving up to the drive-thru pharmacy to pick up the family prescriptions.  We roll the windows down and blast that child's favorite music.  Sometimes they request gum from my purse, which is also a big deal since we don't let our kids chew gum all the time. You can make every day errands special!  

3:  Linger at bedtime.

Sometimes we linger a little longer with one kiddo at bedtime, giving us the opportunity to chat, cuddle, or listen to them tell us about something that's pressing on their hearts.  Bedtime is a great time to unwind and talk, parent-to-child, while the other parent gets the other kids to bed.  I recommend this most on nights that is not a school night, mostly because school nights are stressful for all.   

I also like to give my kids a "good dream in their mind" by saying something aloud that they love and touching their forehead. The kids even ask for a "good dream" before bed sometimes.  This sets the tone for a good night's sleep.   

My kids also love when I ask them questions such as "The Favorites Game." I ask them three questions about their favorites, such as:  what is your favorite food, what is your favorite season, what is your favorite color?   It's super simple and fun.  

A few guidelines:

-Make your dates technology-free.  Except, of course, to snap a few pictures to commemorate the fun.  You keep your phone tucked away, and you don't let your child bring a device. 

-Set a budget.  This makes the date-choosing fair to all the kids and keeps your family's finances in mind. 

-Create a schedule.  As I mentioned, we rotate dates with our oldest three kids, but we don't do it every weekend.  However, putting dates on a calendar is helpful for kids to know what's happening, with whom, and when.  

-Give choices.  Older kids may know exactly what they want to do, but younger children are often more successful with choices.  "Do you want to go get ice cream, or do you want to go to the park?"  

-Make dates about time-spent-together (experiences) and not things.  I'd suggest not making dates a toy-buying-excursion, unless of course, it's something linked to an activity.  Like you purchase water guns and then have a water gun fight together when you get home.  

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

What's the Deal With Essential Oils? A Conversation With Meghan Joy Yancy

I'm going to be totally honest with you (always).   I am like SO not cool.  Not on-trend.   With anything:  health, music, television shows, books, fashion.  
But after learning I had breast cancer (disease #2, since the #1 spot was taken by type 1 diabetes) last summer, a friend of mine (also a survivor) suggested sniffing essential oils.  Like taking a deep whiff when I was feeling another wave of debilitating anxiety.  I had a few oils in my bathroom drawer. So I took her advice, even though I was like, essential oils, what?  
Now if you know me, you know I'm a major skeptic when it comes to all-things-health.  I don't believe in magical cures, diet plans (like no carbs---because, are you freaking kidding me?!?---heavily referenced in my latest book), or pills that make you a health superstar.  How are essential oils any different?  Well I'll tell you the truth:  taking a deep breath, inhaling the scent of the oil, DID offer me some temporary relief from my anxiety.  
Curiosity got the best of me, and I reached out to a fellow blogger and mama of a big, multiracial family:  Meghan Joy YancyShe knows all about essential oils, and she told me I could ask her anything.  Anything?  Yes, anything.  So I did just that.
Rachel:  First, you have a big, beautiful, multiracial family and another little one on the way:  a baby girl!  HOW in the world do you stay sane? 
MJY:  Haha! Jesus. Really though, my faith in God. He is my rock. And there are so many factors that play a role in my sanity. I’m a huge advocate of SAYING NO (even to good things) because I believe a more simple life is the key to that secret sauce of happiness. I’m not talking about laziness but I am referring to leading a life of less busy-ness. My husband is my partner in life and we make such a great team so we really help balance one another out well. And there are definitely still days of crazy chaos, but I’m learning to embrace them and learn from them.
Rachel:  Can I be honest with you?  When the essential oil trend began (and to this day), I’m a skeptic.  I don’t believe in magical cures.  As a type 1 diabetic and breast cancer survivor, I know that there are many tracks to good health, not just ONE thing. So pitch to me, please.  How can essential oils, overall, boost a person or family’s health?  
MJY:  Can I be honest with you, too? I WAS A SKEPTIC TOO! And then I started using the oils and my world flipped upside down. And truth be told, it’s an entire lifestyle of health and wellness that I believe so. When I started using YL essential oils, my eyes were open to so much more. I began researching more about the food that we ate and the products we put on our skin. It opened the door for a completely new lifestyle for myself and my family. And I can truthfully say that our health has just continued to benefit from using the oils and making many other changes in our life. That being the food we eat, the products we use and the atmosphere we surround ourselves with.
Rachel:  We’re right in the midst of sick season. Flu.  Colds.  Croup.   Strep.  You name it.  Can you suggest some specific ways essential oils can help a family get through? 
MJY:  First of all, I wanted to just clarify that any suggestions made are specific to Young Living Essential Oils and not be used with oils from another source. Any statements I make have not been evaluated by the FDA and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. Anyone suffering from disease or injury should consult with a physician. That all being said, in our home, we use Thieves EO for all our immune boosting needs! We have it running in our diffuser, rub on the bottoms of our feet and create some great all-natural chest rubs with RC (for respiratory support) as well. We drink the Thieves Vitality oil in our tea and I even will take it in an empty vegetable capsule when I need an extra immune system boost. I also like to add Purification EO to our diffuser as it purifies the air while neutralizing odors. Win win, baby!

Rachel:  As I’ve shared, I struggle with anxiety (like many moms!), as does one of my children.  Can essential oils help me ease some of my symptoms?  

MJY:  There are so many oils that can help bring emotional balance to people of all ages. I love making specific rollerball blends for each of my children that will cater to each of their needs. StressAway EO is a great oil for moms! I love to put a rollerball top straight on the bottle and rub it on my neck and shoulders. Besides smelling amazing, it holds properties that help you achieve that emotional balance and release stress. For my kids, my go-to oil is always lavender. It helps brings feelings of peace and calm and is great to diffuse close to bedtime. Gentle Baby EO is a gem I love to sprinkle on the babies blankets and pajamas before naptime or bedtime for a calming atmosphere. Some other great oils to create a blend for that emotional support are Cedarwood, Vetiver, Valor, Patchouli, Joy and Peace + Calming.
Rachel:  I'm ridiculous when it comes to makeup.  Like I stand in the aisle at the store or stare blankly at my computer screen:  frustrated and confused.  I usually walk away with NOTHING or too much of what doesn't even end up looking good on me!  I'm also really wanting to live as healthy as possible:  so I want QUALITY and safe ingredients.   Talk to me about makeup, since girl, you ALWAYS look stunning in your IG pics.  I need to know your secrets!
MJY:  You are too kind! I was actually never too much into makeup (or at least didn’t know much about it until I started youtubin’ a little bit. And then it was fun!) And once I began using YL essential oils and my eyes were opened to the toxins in our every day products, I discovered that a lot of those toxins are in our freakin’ makeup we smear on our faces every day! Women are exposed to over 150 chemicals each day from the makeup we put on our faces. They have horrible side affects on our bodies as well. I knew I needed an alternative and I made the full on switch once YL launched their Savvy Minerals makeup line and it has been extraordinary! I learned the difference between safe and quality products and I took it seriously the ones I’m putting on my face. Plus, I’ve been able to play around with the line and create some really fun looks. The minerals are so interchangeable so I can use the eyeshadow as a shade of lipgloss and I can use the blush or bronzer as a eyeshadow. 
Rachel:  If there’s one thing you’d like to tell the world about essential oils, especially someone like me who is pretty darn clueless, what would it be?
MJY:  That they are a natural part of the earth and people have been using essential oils since the beginning of time. Somehow, they got lost along the way and we are just now beginning to get back to more natural remedies. There are so many alternatives out there and I just encourage people to do your own research. Beginning this lifestyle with essential oils has been absolutely life-changing for me in so many ways and their benefits are available to everyone. The one thing I always say when someone asks me if an essential oil can be used for “so-and-so” is… There is an oil for that. There is ALWAYS an oil for that.
Starting today through Sunday, MJY is giving away an incredible Young Living Essential Oils bundle.  Visit me on Instagram to enter!  

Want to snag some essential oils for yourself or learn more about joining the Young Living team?  Contact Meghan via Insta or e-mail today! 


Tuesday, October 24, 2017

Dear Sugar: Jamie Ivey, on Adoption, Race, Nosy Strangers, and Doing It All

Dear Sugar,

I'm just a *tad* obsessed with today's guest.  Jamie Ivey is a mom-by-adoption and birth, a speaker and writer, a podcast hostess (with the mostest---couldn't help myself!), wife, and woman of faith.  Her commitment to hospitality, loving Jesus and people, and empowering fellow women is incredibly inspiring.  Let's get at it:     

Rachel:  GIRL!  You do so many things.  You have a fabulous podcast called The Happy Hour, you write, you speak, you travel, and you host incredible female-empowering events.  Oh, and you're a wife and mom by birth and adoption.  Many of us are like you in that we have a career, a family, and passions and talents.  And we feel SO much pressure to do it all.   Do you have a secret you can share with us?  I mean really, how do you do it:  keep up with your kids, keep your marriage hot, and still pursue your career?   

Jamie:  I’m most certain that there’s no secret sauce to doing it all. In fact, I’m also most certain that there is no such thing as doing it all! A few years ago I took an inventory of all the things I was saying yes to, and it was overwhelming. I was saying yes to lots of things, but not doing any of them well. I decided then that for the next year I would only say yes to things that were under 4 certain categories. It was a great indicator of how sometimes we have to say no to things so that we can do well the things we do say yes to.

I’m also intentional with the things that matter the most to me – my people. I will always choose a family night at home over a PTA meeting. I will always choose a date night with my man over an early bedtime. I will always choose watching my kids do their thing at school over a girl’s night out. So in reality I don’t do it all, I just really try and focus on the things that matter to me.

The myth is that anyone can do it all. There’s no such thing. I always say that when I’m mothering my kids, or out on a date tending to my marriage I am not working in that moment. When I’m on the road working, or at an event for my podcast I’m not mothering in that moment. Whatever moment I’m in, I focus on doing that the best that I can. Most days from 4-9 it’s all about mothering, and from 8-3 all about working. (Key word there is “most” – I’m still learning this too friends!)

Rachel:  At least once a week, a random stranger stops me and my four babies in the store, at the park, etc. to ask a question about adoption.  Your family's story, like mine, includes transracial adoption, and transracial adoption is not only obvious, but also fascinating to the public.  Now that your children are older, do they answer strangers' questions?  Do they prefer you answer?  How do you handle the occasional interrogation?  What do you think families new to adoption should consider before responding to strangers?  (Like, what do you wish you knew THEN that you know now?)   

Jamie:  When my kids were younger I used to take offense to any question about how my family looked different. Now I am much more interested in sharing the beauty of our family than being offended these days. Most people don’t ask questions in front of my kids anymore since they realize that my kids are old enough to answer. As a family we talk about these questions as they come towards me, and even role play some in how to answer questions that might come from friends and their parents.

My advice to parents who are just beginning this journey into their family that is formed different than most families, and looks different than those around you, is to always look for ways that you can speak positive messages about your family and educate while doing so. For example, when someone asks me if I know my kids real mom I simply answer this way, Oh yes, we do know his birth mom, and have a great relationship with her. You see, I didn’t make them feel stupid, and I didn’t get offended when they assumed I wasn’t his real mom, but yet I answered in a positive way, and educated the person along the way. 

Rachel:  When I was onThe Happy Hour podcast, we talked about raising our kids and their privacy, especially for adoptees.  Now that your kids are a bit older, what do you see as the pros and cons of sharing your children with the world via social media: either a story, a picture, or both?  What rules or guidelines do you have in place so that you are respectful of your kids while still being open with your readers?

Jamie:  When my kids were younger I shared all the stories – potty training, first rides on a train, sick in the middle of the night, first day of kindergarten, all of the things! Now that my kids are older and have an opinion on such things I share a lot less with the world. Most times if you see a photo of one of my kids on social media, I have asked them if I could share that photo and/or that particular story. Sharing my family with the world has been such a positive thing. It’s a great way for people to see a normal family that just looks different than they may be used to. It helps people see adoption in a positive light as well.  I now look at things through this lens – would it be okay for my kids to see this photo of them, or read this caption about them in 10 years? If it’s a no, then I don’t post. If it’s a yes, then go right ahead.

Rachel:  Let's talk about being a woman of faith and today's political and racial climate.  Personally, and I know some of my readers feel the same, I feel stuck and frustrated. There are so many people who are not WOKE to the realities people of color, women, immigrants, people with special needs, etc. face.  And sadly, many of those who turn a blind eye are fellow Christians who are in positions of political power.  Because of this, I think many who aren't Christians tend to turn away from even considering the redemptive love of Jesus.  Those of us who GET IT are working extra hard to show the world that we DO care and that ALL people matter to Jesus.  Where do you stand on this?  What insight or encouragement can you offer those who are WOKE women of faith and are struggling today? 

For all of you women that are WOKE, keep it up! I think one of the biggest hinderances we can feel is that our reach isn’t big enough, or our influence isn’t wide enough, or our followers aren’t grand enough and therefore we won’t make a difference with what we are saying. I say that is a lie. For many generations before us they made huge impacts with the gospel and the love of Jesus and not a one of them had an Instagram account, or email list of thousands.

We need to be women who are tending to the people that God has put in front of us. For most of us, that’s the people in our homes – whether that be children, parents, or roommates. For some of us, it’s the online community that listens to our voice, and for the even less of us, it’s the audiences that listen to our voices at events.

The lie that will soften your voice is that no one is listening to you. Friends, you have people listening to you, so tell them what you know to be truth about the gospel and God’s love for them. Then they will tell and the ripple effect will be massive.

Don’t let the lie of “I have no one listening” to cause you to be ineffective. God has given you a voice, use it for his truths, and speak those to the people around you.

Rachel:  You have a book coming out in January.  Can you give us a sneak preview?  (I cannot wait to read it, and I don't even know what it's about!)  What can we expect from a book by Jamie Ivey?  

Jamie:  Ah, yes my book! It still seems super surreal to type those words – my book. IF YOU ONLY KNEW releases in January of 2018 and I’m beyond excited to share this story with anyone that will read it! For many years, I was scared and ashamed to admit how much I had struggled in the past. I made bad choices, turned my back on God, and then when I finally gave my life to Him, I worried that I was too much of a mess to be used by Him. Finally, I began believing what He said about me, and it changed my whole life. That’s what this book is about!

I’m excited about this message, and it is humbling that I get to put a book out with my words inside of it and my name on the cover. I still think I’ll believe it when I see it on the shelves of the bookstore! So, go buy it so I know it’s really happening!! ;)